I’m not likely to get pregnant anytime soon; being in a same sex monogamous relationship eradicates any possibility of it happening by chance. However, whilst my significant other and I made the decision long ago not to have children, I’m still totally fascinated by pregnancy.
I find the concept of growing an entire brand new human being in your uterus nothing short of magical and terrifying, in equal measures. Moreover, because I’m sex-obsessed in general, I’m intrigued by the impact pregnancy has on a woman’s sex life.
I’ve also wondered what the effect of being pregnant has on a woman’s ability to experience female ejaculation. Curiosity got to me, and before I knew it I was researching and trawling through numerous pregnancy forums to find out.
How Does Pregnancy Affect Your Sex Drive?
It’s no secret that many women experience a surge in their libido during pregnancy. While this is usually credited to hormonal fluctuations, the increased blood flow around the sexual organs such as breasts and vulva during pregnancy, also make it easier for women to become aroused.
Credit also needs to go to oxytocin, which is commonly branded as “the love hormone,” and generally makes a woman feel more intimately bonded with her partner during pregnancy. Research has also shown that oxytocin is such powerful stuff that it even affects muscle contractions during orgasm; thus, giving you a stronger climax.
During the first trimester as the levels of estrogen and progesterone rise, you may also experience queasiness and exhaustion, thus quelling your sexual appetite. For most women, when they hit week 10, these symptoms ease and they’re ready to rumble in the jungle.
As one of my friends eloquently put it; “By my second trimester I was so fucking horny I woke up one morning mounting the bed head.”
Along with a heightened libido, the increased blood flow also accounts for more vaginal lubrication and clitoral hypersensitivity. It’s common for pregnant women to feel heightened sensation during sexual activity.
On the other hand, some women report finding it difficult to orgasm during pregnancy. Some attribute this to the maternal instinct kicking in so strongly that their interest in sex is diminished, or they are fearful that bonking might be detrimental to the baby.
How Common Is Squirting During Pregnancy?
From the number of women discussing female ejaculation during pregnancy on websites such as MedHelp, babycentre community and mumsnet.com , it’s quite evident that many women are experiencing female ejaculation during their pregnancies.
It’s not all that surprising that pregnancy is a time when many women experience female ejaculation. Why? Well, there’s all those hormones running rampant, increased sensitivity and sensation in the genital area, and extra pressure on the pelvic region. Plus, thanks to the extra oxytocin, you’re likely to be horny as hell and super bonded to your baby daddy, increasing your connection and comfort during coitus, which in turn increases your chances of squirting also.
In some cases, women who have not previously been able to achieve squirting orgasms, are taken by surprise by gushes of lady juice during sex whilst pregnant.
For others, who have been natural squirters prior to getting pregnant, they find their previously wet orgasms seem to dry up and they can no longer squirt.
Some women recommend that if you keep having sex whilst pregnant when you’re experiencing female ejaculation, and as soon as possible (once you’re ready) after birth, that you will be able to maintain your squirting ability post pregnancy.
As is often the case – every woman is different, and one person’s sexual experience during pregnancy is going to be different to the next.
No, That’s Not Your Water Breaking (or It’s Unlikely That It Is)
Here’s yet another reason why I’m irate that female ejaculation still isn’t widely recognised and accepted as a normal and natural sexual response by the medical world: we’re not letting pregnant women know that it may happen whilst they have a bun in the oven, and if it does that there’s no cause for alarm.
You’ve only got to hop on to a couple of pregnancy or baby forums to see how many threads there are devoted to women who experience female ejaculation during pregnancy and women are concerned that it is abnormal or detrimental to the baby they are incubating.
I’ve read about women fearing they’ve ruptured the membrane and were leaking amniotic fluid, or mistaking squirting for their water breaking, and then being confused as to why there weren’t any contractions following it.
As happens to a number of women who experience female ejaculation for the first time, pregnant ladies may also mistake their gushes for having peed themselves. (A quick sniff test will confirm that your lady juice is not urine.)
Is Female Ejaculation Safe During Pregnancy?
Just as women can (and some even say should) continue to have an active sex life whilst being pregnant, there is no cause for alarm or concern should your sex life include female ejaculation – before, during or after pregnancy.