There are many misconceptions around squirting and female ejaculation, and it continues to be seen as a sexual enigma that people are trying to figure out.
Here are 8 of the most common (read: annoying) myths I’ve come across:
1. Squirting Is the Same as Peeing
Whether it’s in my blog own posts, articles I’ve written for other websites or publications, my social media channels or just in general conversation – I’m constantly trying to debunk this myth.
Any woman who has experienced female ejaculation will unequivocally confirm squirting and urination are two entirely different things. Moreover, squirt juice does not taste, smell or look like pee.
Female ejaculate and squirting are said to be two different sexual marvels, largely due to their differing sources of origin. Female ejaculate originates from the Skene’s Glands, while the fluid from ‘squirting’ originates from the urethra sponge (also referred to as the G Spot) and expels via the urethra.
Both however, contain prosthetic fluid, and both are not the same as urine.
2. Every Woman Is Able to Squirt or Achieve Female Ejaculation
There is a plethora websites and self-proclaimed ‘sexual experts’ capitalising on the hype around female ejaculation and declaring they can ‘teach’ you how to squirt.
Physiologically, not every woman is able to squirt. Regardless of the number of workshops they attend, articles they read, or number of times they practice , some women are just not able to make it happen.
While may think “Well, doesn’t every cis woman have the same anatomy? Doesn’t every cis woman have Skene’s Glands and a G Spot?” the ability for women to produce prostate fluid varies, as does the size and location of the glands.
In addition to this, the location of the G Spot also varies for each woman. I feel one of the reason I can squirt so easily, is due to the location of my G Spot which is quite close to the entrance of my vagina. Thus, it’s easier to reach (and stimulate) than it might be for women whose G Spot is located further into their vagina.
Aside from the physiological aspects, a key area of female ejaculation that has not been researched is the psychological component. In my opinion, squirting and female ejaculation are not reached solely through physical stimulation, and the brain plays a vital role in making it happen.
3. Squirting Is a New Phenomena
News flash: Female ejaculation and squirting have been around for centuries.
Female ejaculation was well known and documented in Chinese Taoist texts, dating as far back as 4th century, as well as appearing in Ancient Indian writings termed “love juice”. In the Western world too, and documented by Aristotle around 300BC. In these ancient times it was celebrated as a natural and beautiful part of sex, when many cultures viewed as a fundamental component of human life and essential to longevity.
The first scientific investigation into female ejaculation took place by a Dutch gynaecologist, Reinjier De Graaf in the mid 1600s, who was a goddamn-freaking-legend, and identified the female prostate. He also developed a detailed description of the anatomical structures and mechanism by which women ejaculate.
In 1952, German gynecologist Ernest Gräfenberg published an article called “The role of urethra in female orgasm” in which he stated that the expulsion of fluid during orgasm was not urine, “but only secretions of the intraurethral glands correlated with the erotogenic zone along the urethra in the anterior vaginal wall”.
Sadly, modern scientific investigation seems to ignore all of this, and focuses on trying to prove squirting to be ‘sexual incontinence’. Rather than investigating the inner workings of how and why the phenomena takes place, scientists nowadays are preoccupied with invalidating this natural sexual response by claiming women are just peeing during sex.
4. Female Ejaculation Only Happens at the Time of Orgasm
Unlike penile ejaculation, female ejaculation and squirting usually happen around the time of climax, however they may happen any time during sexual play.
While female ejaculation and squirting are said to be two different occurrences, they both result from female sexual pleasure and can occur separately, or at the same time.
5. If You Stimulate Your G Spot, You Will Squirt & Squirting Only Happens Through G Spot Stimulation
While squirting can happen from G Spot stimulation:
- Stimulating your G Spot won’t automatically make you squirt
- It is possible to squirt without stimulating your G Spot
A couple of years ago I was on holiday with my family, and away from my partner for a few weeks. I was missing her terribly, as were my loins which were used to having regular sex.
One evening I stole myself away from a family gathering to get an early night, and decided to take a sexy video for my partner while I masturbated. I hadn’t packed any of my favourite sex toys, and relied on clitoral stimulation and my right hand to bring me to orgasm.
If I hadn’t recorded it, I might not have believed that after a few minutes of stroking my clitoris and imagining my partner on top of me, I squirted a light spray of yoni juice between my legs.
When I have sex (with my partner and sometimes with a clever dildo) G Spot stimulation does makes me squirt, but there are times when it happens during solo fun if I’m extremely horny.
6. Squirting Means Buckets of Liquid Will Come out of You
Squirting can produce a lot of fluid, don’t get me wrong – I for one can attest to my squirt soaking through towels on many an occasion. Yet, it doesn’t always happen this way for every woman who experiences squirting and/or female ejaculation.
While these days I tend to be a “gusher” meaning I produce a lot of fluid when I squirt. Prior to my current relationship of 3 years, anytime I ejaculated I only ever produced a dribble of liquid, leaving a small puddle on the bed.
Some women may already be experiencing female ejaculation without even realising it, as the fluid expelled can be part of the mix of male ejaculate and sexual excretions, or it may not be a significant enough amount to notice.
7. The Squirting You See in Porn Is 100% Real
While squirting is common place in porn, it’s rarely an authentic representation. Instead, what you are seeing is often either urine, or a liquid that the porn actress has placed in her vagina before filming.
Vagina’s aren’t dancing monkeys, and most women are not able to squirt on command the way porn would lead you to believe.
8. A Squirting Orgasm Is Better than a Non Squirting Orgasm
This is annoying myth that buys into the hype around female ejaculation, and aims to make women who’ve not been able to achieve it feel as though they are missing out on the apex of sexual pleasure.
Orgasms are not all created equal – this is true – they vary in intensity and duration, however if your natural sexual response does not involve an ejaculative orgasm, it doesn’t make it an inferior one.
While I experience a huge sense when I have a squirting or wet orgasm, I have also had equally toe curling dry orgasms.
However your orgasm manifests, is the right way for you.